Paul on Leadership

Over the past several months I have been chewing on four critical leadership principles that I believe God showed me as I read through the book of Philemon. As you may know, the book of Philemon was written by Paul and in this book (which is just one chapter) Paul is appealing to Philemon on behalf of a dude named Onesimus (we’re just not very creative with names anymore, are we?). It’s out of Paul’s appeal to Philemon on how to care for Onesimus that the four leadership principles emerge.

(These principles are offered from the vantage point of leading in ministry, however, my experience leading outside the ministry supports the truth of these principles regardless of the type of organization. The second principle is specific to ministry, but if as leaders we execute the other three well, we may just lead someone in the most import direction… to Jesus.)

As I lead, I should…

1 – Share my Faith

Philemon v6
I pray that you may be active in sharing your faith, so that you will have a full understanding of every good thing we have in Christ.

Anyone in leadership that is trying to lead well wants more knowledge. Leaders want to make good decisions that lead to team victories and increase team morale. Most of the time these victories come from the leaders effectiveness in creating the right environment or process that allows the individuals on the team to succeed. In this verse Paul say that if I am active in sharing my faith that I will “have full knowledge of every good thing…”.

How do I share my faith as I lead? I don’t think this means walking each team member down the “Romans Road” everyday, but do I think its as simple as leading by living out what I say I believe in as a follower of Christ. As a leader, I’m not one person at church and another at home and another at work. I walk the talk and as I instruct/challenge/discipline my team, I do it through the filter of my faith in Christ.

2 – Trust God

Philemon v8-9
Therefore, although in Christ I could be bold and order you to do what you ought to do, yet I appeal to you on the basis of love.

If you are in the position of a leader (there is a difference between being a leader and being in the position of a leader – other posts address this issue) then you can demand actions from your team. What Paul is demonstrating to me in this verse is that although he could demand action (because of his position), he is choosing to appeal to the Spirit that lives inside of Philemon.

To me, the biggest win I can achieve as a leader is to cultivate an environment where each person on my team carries out his/her role not out of duty but out of faith (Colossians 3:23). The primary benefit of leading in ministry is that each person on your team is a follower of Jesus (at least in theory). If I am following God’s direction to lead “by sharing my faith” then I need to trust God’s work in the person I am leading. Over time if I find that the person I’m leading is not responding from their own faith, but begrudgingly out of duty or not at all, then I have someone who rightfully needs to be led off my team or out of my organization.

3 – Invest in the Person

Philemon v14
But I did not want to do anything without your consent, so that any favor you do will be spontaneous and not forced.

Simply, in this verse Paul is seeking Philemon’s buy in before any decisions or actions take place. My own experience has shown me that if I invest time into my team by seeking their input on a particular decision or course of action, then I am more likely to get their best effort in the execution of that decision. If I choose to not invest this time into my team, then there will be unanswered questions or confusion or a process that isn’t as good as it could have been with their input. That’s just bad and egotistical leadership.

4 – Serve the Person

Philemon v18-19
If he has done you any wrong or owes you anything, charge it to me. I, Paul… will pay it back.

My team needs to know that I will stand up for them no matter the personal cost to me. It is clear from this verse Paul is willing to go out on a personal limb for Onesimus. For me, if I don’t think my leader will take a bullet for me or seek to put himself out for me then I am slow to do the same for him. If I want to be led with that type of commitment, why would I not think I should lead with that type of commitment?

Leaders must first be servants of those they lead. Securing leadership equity (the need to call in and have something done with no questions asked by the team) will only happen if the leader earns it. I have found that the only way to earn that equity is through serving each individual on the team in a way that lets them know they are not on an island and that they are safe under my leadership. Leaders go first, take bullets, deflect criticism, and make sure the people on the team feel served… a guy named Jesus thought this was a good leadership principle too (John 13:1-17).

Leadership is as easy (and as challenging) as sharing our faith, trusting God, investing in our team and serving our team. And, its as easy (and challenging) as simply loving those you lead.

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What to do?

One of the worst things we can do with our efforts and emotions is to place them toward something that just isn’t going to happen. Also, one of the worst things we can do is to refrain from placing our efforts and emotions toward something that seems impossible. The reality of life is that at some point – if we are trying to live a full life – we will spend our efforts and emotions in both of these ways and at the end of those attempts we will be spent. To not do so, at some point and in some way, is to live in fear or to live with regret. For us not to try the impossible is to guarantee we will miss the incredible.

Here’s the deal, we all have dreams that are bigger than our abilities and we all have abilities that are bigger than our dreams. What I am starting to see is that the sooner I get my dreams synced up with my abilities, the sooner I will have a life that is full of purpose and accomplishment and hope and amazement and usefulness and contentment.

In the life of a follower of Jesus, this idea is even more true. The bible teaches that each of us have been given a gift (an ability) to do something that is essential and necessary for the whole Church. (Romans 12 and 1 Corinthians 12). If we do not use our gifts the Church will move forward because Jesus said that not even the gates of Hell could stop it, but I believe when a believer doesn’t use their gift for the Church, the Church moves forward with a limp. My own experience has shown me that its usually the gap between our gifts and our dreams that immobilize us.

Recently as I was having this battle in my own life – my dreams and abilities in conflict – I “just so happened” to be reading through 1 Corinthians… specifically chapters 12 to 14 when the following verses jumped out to me with very specific meaning:

I Corinthians 13:8
Love never fails…

I Corinthians 14:33
For God is not a God of confusion but of peace…

I Corinthians 12:22
The parts of the body that seem weaker are indispensable…

As these parts of these verses came together in my mind, in regards to this struggle between my dreams and my abilities, I began to see more clearly that the longer I keep these two things in conflict the longer I will stay frustrated and the slower the Church moves toward its purpose. Conversely, I began to see that the sooner I embrace God’s love for me (that never ends) in what He has given me the ability to do (something that is indispensable), I will live at peace and on purpose.

You see, my experience in life and in ministry has shown me that when I use my God given gifts I experience the most fun and I am the most effective. But, when I found myself trying to do things that I am not truly gifted at the outcome would be, at best, serviceable. The former producing energy and excitement and results where the latter just produced frustration and questions.

Since the first time I saw the movie “The Rookie” (in 2002, staring Dennis Quaid – a true story about a baseball player named Jim Morris) a line from that movie has really bounced in around my head. It was in an exchange between Jim’s dad and Jim as Jim contemplated trying to something great but seemingly impossible… here’s the line… “Its ok to do what you want to do until its time to do what you were meant to do.

Now, I know that line is not in the bible and is in no way absolute truth… but… I think it does carry the spirit of what I’m talking about here. We all want a life that is full and vibrant and meaningful. We all have dreams and how if we could just do “this or that” our life would be all those things. We all should pursue our dreams with great vigor… but… as we grow and as our experiences begin to show us that our dreams are in conflict with our gifts, we need to take pause to seek the Lord and begin to do what He’s gifted us to do.

Whatever you and I are “meant to do” will produce more joy and more excitement and be more challenging than anything we simply “want to do”. Why? Well, because our biggest dream for ourselves is so much lower than what God wants us to experience.

Isaiah 55: 8-9
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.

Dreaming big is trusting God with the gifts He has given us and really living life is doing exactly what He created us to do. Its in this place that “want to do” and “meant to do” become the same thing and nothing will ever be better than that… and its only in this intersection that we will truly be able to try the impossible and guarantee we will not miss the incredible.

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In Control?

Gen. 45: 7-8
“But God sent me ahead of you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to save your lives by a great deliverance. So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God.” – Joseph to his brothers

The reality for you and I is that we all want to be in control… all the time and in every situation. I don’t know about you, but each time my plans get shifted – even in the slightest – my frustration meter begins to heat up and frustration isn’t far behind. Why? Well, I believe the primary reason is that I am my primary reason… for anything I do.

We all ask the same basic questions… no matter our background…
* Where did I come from?
* Why am I here?
* Where am I going?

The questions themselves indicate that we want control because by securing those answers, we think, we will be able to set our own course and find our own purpose. The problem that I have found in locating the answers to those questions is that though they (the questions) are focused on me, the answers point to Someone else being in control.

We think freedom is birthed from control. As we have reign over each moment, our ability to walk in freedom will increase. I don’t know about you, but life has taught me something very different. Freedom, I have found is only birthed inside the security of a guarded path. Only the person who runs inside the boundaries set by someone who can actually guard those boundaries is truly free.

As Joseph went through dilemma after dilemma I have to believe that he would think, at times, if I could just “get out” and be free I could set a course that would make my life meaningful. But, as time passed, Joseph started to see that the physical limitations he was placed in over and over again were just a course set by the One who was actually in control. When he speaks to his brothers (quoted above), Joseph is at a place where he sees clearly that at no time were his brothers, Potiphar, the prison warden or Pharaoh ever really in control. And, obviously, neither was he.

God is always in control… there is never a second or a situation or a person that is beyond his providence and specific plan. We can never see this very well while in the midst of a struggle or confusing situation, but as we look back the picture becomes clearer… as long as we keep God as the point of it all and not ourselves.

We want to write our own story, control each chapter and make sure we have what we think is a happy ending. What I am learning is that my life is not an autobiography and I’m not the star… I love that truth AND it make for a much better story.

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Protected, Pursued & Pushed into Purpose

Protected… Pursued… Pushed… into our Purpose

I love the story of Moses and how it clearly shows the process God uses to use us.

Protected

First, Moses was protected from certain danger before he even knew he needed protecting. Moses was born at a time that would have seemed to be a certain end for him… before he even had a chance to try… but God intentionally protected Moses.

Exodus 2:5-10

Then Pharaoh’s daughter went down to the Nile to bathe, and her attendants were walking along the river bank. She saw the basket among the reeds and sent her slave girl to get it. She opened it and saw the baby. He was crying, and she felt sorry for him. “This is one of the Hebrew babies,” she said. Then his sister asked Pharaoh’s daughter, “Shall I go and get one of the Hebrew women to nurse the baby for you?” “Yes, go,” she answered. And the girl went and got the baby’s mother. Pharaoh’s daughter said to her, “Take this baby and nurse him for me, and I will pay you.” So the woman took the baby and nursed him. When the child grew older, she took him to Pharaoh’s daughter and he became her son. She named him Moses, saying, “I drew him out of the water.”

Looking back over my life I can see very clearly how the Lord protected me from certain death – physical and spiritual – at times when I didn’t even know I needed protecting. I bet you could say the same thing… how do I know this? The fact that you’re reading this means He has protected you to this point… for a very specific reason.

Pursued

The bible is clear through out that no one seeks after God. God is the pursuer. He is relentless. He comes after us both for our good and ultimately for His glory. Looking back over my life I can certainly say that this is not just true from what scripture says… its true based on my own experience. Here’s what else is true for me… and I bet for you… God came after me when I least expected it and in a way that I wouldn’t have expected. He designed His pursuit specifically for me.

That’s what He did for Moses… I bet that’s what He did (or is about to do) for you, too.

Exodus 3: 1-4

Now Moses was tending the flock of Jethro his father-in-law, the priest of Midian, and he led the flock to the far side of the desert and came to Horeb, the mountain of God. There the angel of the LORD appeared to him in flames of fire from within a bush. Moses saw that though the bush was on fire it did not burn up. So Moses thought, “I will go over and see this strange sight—why the bush does not burn up.” When the LORD saw that he had gone over to look, God called to him from within the bush, “Moses! Moses!”

And Moses said, “Here I am.”

Pushed

Why would God protect us and then pursue us if He didn’t have a purpose for us? I don’t think He would… He saves us to use us. Why, I really don’t know. God doesn’t need us but He has decided that for Him to secure the most glory He will use the most needy.

The problem for us – or at least for me – is that, like Moses, I don’t really want to be used. Or, I should say, I have no real desire to be placed in tough circumstances where the odds are stacked against me and I really have to trust God for things to work out. I like loving God when everything is easy and the deck is stacked in my favor. I think that’s how Moses liked loving God too.

Exodus 3: 10-14

I am sending you to Pharaoh to bring my people the Israelites out of Egypt.” But Moses said to God, “Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?” And God said, “I will be with you. And this will be the sign to you that it is I who have sent you: When you have brought the people out of Egypt, you will worship God on this mountain.” Moses said to God, “Suppose I go to the Israelites and say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ Then what shall I tell them?” God said to Moses, “I am who I am. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I AM has sent me to you.’ ”

This is just the first of several attempts by Moses to get out of the whole “deliver my people” demand by God. How many times do we seek to tell God why there is a better way to do something or there is someone better to use than us or that the situation is too difficult right now and that He should wait for a better time?

What I love about God is that even though He isn’t dependent on me to do anything, He stops at nothing to get me to something He has prepared (in advance) for me to do (Ephesians 2:10). Why? I am not completely sure, but I think its simply because He loves me and wants me to have the best chance possible to love Him in the biggest way possible.

The story of Moses goes on to prove that God could use Moses to do something he didn’t think he could do AND that as a result, Moses’ love for God and his relationship with God went to places he also thought weren’t possible.

The pattern of Moses’s life – I’m starting to see – is the pattern of my life:

God’s protection – even when I can’t see it.
God’s pursuit – even when I don’t want it.
God’s pushing – even when I know I can’t do it.

Every time I say to Him, “I can’t do this…” He gently reminds me, “I know, I AM”. God loves me in THIS way – I now believe – so I can love Him more in EVERY way.

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